Gratitude is Like a Magnet | Manners Quotes

“Gratitude is like a magnet; the more grateful you are,
the more you will receive and be grateful for.”

–Iyanla Vanzant

Fabulous Fascinators of the Royal Ascot Races

ascot-hatHere is a video showcasing some of the fabulous hats and fascinators seen at the Royal Ascot Races in England. Enjoy!

Hats of Ascot video

The Royal Ascot Races begin today, June 20, 2017 through June 24th and attract the finest racehorses from around the world. But some people think the real spectacle is the fashion — the fabulous hats and outfits worn by the spectators.

Ascot Even Has a Dress Code for Hats and Fascinators

The Ascot races website lists a Dress Code for what to wear in the Royal Enclosure, the Queen Anne and Village Enclosures, and the Windsor Enclosure. If you’re lucky enough to be in the Royal Enclosure, the dress code cites that “Hats should be worn; however, a headpiece which has a solid base of 4 inches (10 cm) or more in diameter is acceptable as an alternative to a hat. Fascinators are not permitted; neither are headpieces which do not have a solid base covering a sufficient area of the head (4 inches/10 cm).”

Miss Meredith Sweetpea wishes she could be there to witness the delightful garden of hats herself. Send us pictures of yourself attending Ascot in your hat!

Why Should I Wear a Fascinator on the Right?


Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall wears a fascinator.

A number of kind readers have been asking Miss Meredith Sweetpea lately why a fascinator is traditionally worn on the right-hand side of the head.

The custom runs far back into history to when women were generally accompanied by men when they walked down the street. Women of any stature would rarely have occasion to walk alone; she was escorted by her husband, or if single, her father or brother. And of course, both men and women always wore a hat whenever outdoors.

Wearing the Fascinator on the Right Made Perfect Sense

Men traditionally carried their weapon, such as a sword, on their left-hand side, so it made sense that when walking with a woman (when armed), she walk on his right-hand side. Even when men no longer carried swords, the tradition of putting the women on a man’s right continued.


Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge wears her fascinator on the right.

Another reason to put the women on a man’s right was to position the man between the woman and the street to help protect her fine skirts from becoming splashed by passing carriages or horses traversing the often-muddy roadways.

Therefore, in order to have conversation when walking down the street, a women would tilt her hat to the right to offer a better view of her face to her companion. This also prettily framed her face perfectly for flirting, which only added to her fascination. The pert angle of the hat took on the name “fascinator.”

Today’s milliners often design a fascinator to sit on the right-hand side, in keeping with tradition. But many fascinators are made to suit either side of the face, or to be worn in the center of the head at a slightly forward angle toward. Some people even prefer to wear their fascinator to cover the part in their hair, believing it more attractive worn that way.

There is no hard-and-fast rule about which side is the correct side to wear a fascinator. It is simply up to you to choose.

Woman are Always Right

The tradition of having the women walk on the inside of the man on the street carries on today with polite men and women. Remember the catchphrase, “Women are always right” and it will be easy to remember.

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How to Make a Proper Holiday Toast | Meredith Sweetpea | Manners & Etiquette


Toast to the Holidays

Here we are at the holidays once again, a time for family, friends, merriment, feasting, and toasting.

Toasting is a way of celebrating that certainly isn’t new. It dates back to the Greek and Roman times, and even earlier, where toasts were made to the gods. Today, toasting is a way of marking a celebration to friendship, health, happiness, wealth or love, where the sentiment is most important.

The bests toasts are those made from the heart. They are simple heartfelt messages that bring joy to all in the room. They are not opportunities for bad humor, barbs, or airing one’s griefs. Instead, they should be used to offer thanks, highlight successes, invoke special memories, express honor, or offer tidings to the future or good will.

Now that we know a little more about toasts, here are some general rules of toasting to get you through the holiday and New Year celebrations: Continue reading

Meredith Sweetpea’s Introduction

I’m Meredith Sweetpea, an old-fashioned girl who likes old-fashioned entertainment, etiquette, and living.  The simpler times in life.  I enjoy entertaining friends with bygone amusements and dress-up tea parties to keep alive the time when folks would gather together in communities to share their lives and talents rather than sit home alone in front of their glowing television screens or video games.

This blog will entertain, amuse, and inform its readers on the joys and etiquette of Victorian and turn-of-the-century 1900s living, and we’ll see how most of these practices are still in existence today.  We’ll harken back to them and restore a sense of civility and simple old-fashioned fun to our world.  We’ll experience how to enjoy gracious living again.

Let’s discuss the modern-day etiquette and everyday challenges of today’s world, at home, with friends, in social situations, in school, and in life in general.  Share with me your questions and challenges and we’ll make this an interactive forum for exploring old ways of doing new things.

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