Secrets to Love: Respect


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While reading through one of her favorite books, Miss Meredith Sweetpea came across a section titled: Secrets to love: Respect. She’d like to share those words with you here, in hopes that all might glean a bit of insight into making your love life a little sweeter.

Secrets to Love: Respect

Excerpted from Living Romantically Every Day, by Barbara Taylor Bradford

I think that in order to love someone, you must first respect him [or her] and that respect must be tended to for the duration of the relationship. A romantic partnership is a relationship  between equals — I believe it ‘s virtually impossible to have a successful relationship, let alone a romantic one, with someone you don’t’ respect as an equal. Respect is a form of honoring a person and his individuality, and it’s so important that it’s part of the traditional wedding vows (“love and honor”).

Be attentive when you listen

Respect means holding your partner in a position of high regard and showing that you believe he is genuinely worthy. An important one is to be wholly attentive when you listen. If he’s telling you  a story, don’t interrupt. When he’s done, ask him, “Then what happened?” or “I think the part about X was so interesting. What do you think?”

Respect your partner’s ideas and opinions

Don’t expect the two of you to agree on everything. Agree to disagree about certain issues. As long as you agree on core values, such as how to raise your family, there’s a lot of room to debate everything else.

Respect your partner’s individuality

Trying to “convert” your partner to your way of doing things means you’re convinced that your ways are “right” while his are “wrong” — the opposite of respect. Focus your efforts instead on constructively navigating the areas where you differ in order to find solutions or the “middle road.” Compromise is key to a successful relationship.

Respect your partner’s accomplishments

Be proud of your partner what they’ve achieved in their family life, work, within your community or in leisure activities. Give lots of positive feedback for those accomplishments.

Respect your partner’s goals and dreams

Your partner’s dreams won’t all be the same as yours, but your support for them should be unwavering. Respect means honoring his or her ambitions. Offer unconditional support in whatever they do and help them realize their dreams. This is what a relationship is about.

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