Steve Harvey on Texting and Dating | Meredith Sweetpea

While watching the movie “Her,” Miss Meredith Sweetpea found herself noticing that almost all of the people in the background scenes were interacting with their phones and not with actual people.

Texting isn’t a real relationship. It may be fun to get that “ping” that notifies you that a new message has arrived. It may make you laugh for a moment. But it doesn’t take the place of having a real one-on-one interaction with someone–especially in the dating arena. Let’s see what the experts say…


Relationship Expert
Steve Harvey

Steve Harvey’s Take on Texting and Dating

TV talk show host and comedian Steve Harvey has developed quite a following with men and women as the new “expert” on relationships, and he speaks up about texting and dating. He says that social networking websites and text messages can be a great way to keep in touch with friends, but it’s not the best way to date.

“You have nothing if you’re texting a guy in a relationship,” he says. “If you want the relationship to be more, take it face-to-face.”

“A man that sends you a text message doesn’t really care.”

“A guy that’s really serious about you, he’s gotta be talking to you, he’s gotta want to have one-on-one, in-your-face interaction,” he continues. “That’s how we are.” If a man is really into you he will want to hear your voice and look into your eyes. Texting allows him to keep you at a distance and still keep you on the string without actual effort.

“The guy who’s just texting, that’s no effort. He doesn’t have to get in the car, he doesn’t have to remember your number, he can just text you.  And you see all these wonderful things he’s texting you. Well, guess what, he could be ccing that same text to six other women. And you think you’re special?   Please. There’s no effort in texting.”

He urges women to respect and love themselves, and require chivalry from a man. “Chivalry’s not dead–it’s just not required any more,” he says.

Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz Agrees

According to dating coach Evan Marc Katz in his blog post, “How to Make a Guy Call Instead of Texting You,”If you accept that he only texts you, never calls you, never asks you out for a proper date, you’re tacitly condoning this behavior.”

“What incentive does he have to step up to the plate? Why should he call? Why should he plan dates? Really, if he can text you on Friday night at 10 ‘Come over, I miss you,’ and you do it, there’s no reason for him to spend more time, more money, more energy, or more emotion on you.”

Texts in relationships should be used in addition to a “real” relationship, like you’re running late, you want to ask your partner to pick up an item at the grocery store while they’re there, or to send an occasional “I love you” text in the middle of the day, not as a replacement for actual communication.

“Don’t be afraid that you’re losing your potential boyfriend…if the guy doesn’t respond, ignores your requests for hone time, and treats the phone as if it’s only a means to text,” Katz continues. You’re not losing him. “You’re freeing yourself of the burden of waiting for an indifferent man to show you he cares. If he cared about you, he’d want to call, want to see you, want to commit to you.”

Meredith Sweetpea’s take: Don’t tie yourself down to a texting buddy if you are looking for a real relationship. Cut him loose and move on. I think Steve Harvey would agree with that.

About Steve Harvey

Act-Like-a-Lady-Think-Like-a-ManSteve Harvey is a comedian, radio and TV host, and the author of “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” (2009) and “Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man” (2009).


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