Victorian Weddings: Choosing the Day

The Wedding Day has arrived, the most important event in a Victorian girl’s life. The day her mother has prepared her for since the day she was born. The Victorian girl knew no other ambition. She would marry, and she would marry well.

Choosing the Day

The wedding itself and events leading up to it are steeped in ancient traditions still evident in Victorian customs. The first is to choose the month and day of the wedding.

June has always been the most popular month for it is named for Juno, Roman goddess of marriage. Juno would bring prosperity and happiness to all who wed in her month.

Practicality played a part in this logic too. If married in June, the Victorian bride was likely to give birth to her first child in Spring, allowing her enough time to recover before the next fall harvest.

June also signified the end of Lent and the arrival of warmer weather. And that meant it was time to remove the winter clothing and take the annual bath.

In addition to June, April, November and December were also months favored for weddings as not to conflict with peak farm work months. October was auspicious, signifying a bountiful harvest. May was considered unlucky, taking from a proverb that states “Marry in May and rue the day.” Another proverb states, “Marry in September’s shine, your living will be rich and fine.”

In the Southern United States, April was favored as it was less hot, and a bride’s favorite flowers were in bloom: jasmine and camellia.

Brides were superstitious about days of the week too. A popular rhyme goes:

Marry on Monday for health,
Tuesday for wealth,
Wednesday the best day of all,
Thursday for crosses,
Friday for losses, and
Saturday for no luck at all.

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